Monthly Archives: February 2017

Having A Parent/Father In A Nursing Home!

So my dad is in a nursing home, we had to put him in one a few months ago, back in September because hes 81 years old and hes a big and tall man. And over the last few years his physical condition has slowly been getting worse and worse and over the last year or so hes been falling some but by the end of last year it had gotten to the point where he was falling way to often and once again with him being such a big and tall man it makes it hard to get him up. And it has gotten to the point where my mom had to bathe him and where we would have to call people to help us get him from the bed to the bathroom and it just became to much by September. So we had to put him in a nursing home and oh my goodness how life has changed so much since hes been in the nursing home in so many ways for myself, my mom and my son.

First of all my dad behavior started changing a couple of years ago as he got older and older and me being so young I was & I’m still not prepared for any of this. But since hes been in the nursing home his behavior has gotten so much worse because he still has yet to accept that hes not coming back home because at the end of the day we can not take care of him at home anymore, he cant walk, he cant do anything for himself anymore at this point. He now needs somebody to take care of him full time at this point, he needs a nurse and somebody to take care of him full time and we cant do that at home anymore and he refuses to accept that so his behavior a lot of the time is terrible and this senile behavior started a couple of years ago and its gotten worse as time has gone on and hes gotten older by the day. But for me being 32 years old its been hard for me to know how to react and mentally handle having a senile father and a father that is slowly going down because of his old age.

But there are some good days when we go to see my dad, some days hes fine and he asks normal and doesn’t give us any issues, its almost like dealing with a bipolar person that doesn’t take medication, you never know if you’re going to get him on a good day or a bad day and some days it can be so draining and so much but this has sadly become my reality because my dad was so selfish to bring me into this world when he was 49 years old, when he had no business having a baby at that age and this is why people should not bring babies into this world past the age of 40 in my opinion because in the end their kids will pay for their selfishness and that’s not fair and its not right!

So I will continue to post updates on my journey with having a dad that’s in a nursing home, his mood swings and some of the times that I go to visit him. I know that I’m not the only person dealing with this issue, I don’t think that many people my age are dealing with this issue but I don’t think that I’m the only person going through this though. So I look forward to hearing from others that have or are currently dealing with having a parent in a nursing home.

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The Creep Squad/No Real Man

watching love and hip hop and this whole “creep Squad” thing has been insane to me this entire time. There are so many real men that work so hard to never be called or looked at like creeps and work so hard to be better men then that. So to see these men on this show make it seem like its a good thing to be low down disgusting dirty men is insane to me and for it to be funny to them & for them to now capitalize on this whole “creep squad” thing is crazy to me. These are the type of men that no real woman wants and that every mother wants their daughters to stay away from. These are not the men that you bring home to meet your families and not the men you marry, they aren’t marriage or husband material. And for them to bring light to how terrible of men that are is sickening but makes for good TV!

Britney Spears Better Then Ever

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Last night I watched a biography about Britney Spears and they made it a point during the biography to point out the fact that she had this very public melt down and how she lost it and cut her hair and was acting out when she was going through her melt down. And also how she’s made a comeback, which that in itself I do not at all agree with, Britney never left to make a come back. She had a very human moment, as we all will at some point in our lives and she had a meltdown. She’s human and she’s a human living in the public eye, with her every move being closely watched by those that don’t have a real life of their own! They were also talking about how people judged her as a mother for the mistakes that she made after becoming at mother, again something else that I did not agree with at all!

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I feel like compared to how so many others have handled themselves when they’ve had hard times in their lives and how she’s handled herself and how much she’s been targeted as a celebrity that she’s handled herself very well. If all that she’s done is cut her hair and acted out some and then picked herself up and gotten herself together, then she’s handled things very well if you ask me. She could of let herself become an alcoholic and a drug addict and let those things take her down during her hard times but she didn’t. So what she cut her hair, hair grows back and at the end of the day she picked herself up and got it together and is now back where she belongs and that’s on top.

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Now as far as them making it seem like she was a bad mother because she made a few mistakes after having her babies. What parents haven’t made mistakes, there’s no guidebook that comes with being a parent. We all learn as we go as parents, the only thing that she’s ever done that I don’t agree with is her holding one of her kids while driving but that doesn’t make her a bad parent. And we’ve all done things as a parent that maybe we shouldn’t have, those are the things that we learn from as parents and that makes us better parents and better people! But I don’t feel like Britney Spears is a bad parent or like she’s ever done anything any different then any other parent has done.

I’ve always been a fan of Britney Spears and I applaud her for how she’s handled her life and her had times and I think that she’s here to stay and she headed towards legendary status and we will be hearing from her for years and years to come!